What really happens when two people experience "falling in love", and is this true love? Believe it or not, I very convincingly explains that falling in love, or infatuation, is not true love. Nobody can deny that when we fall in love with someone, the emotions we experience are very intense, and we feel wonderful and very happy. However, there are several problems with falling in love, that reveal it is not true love.

First, falling in love almost always involves sexual desires. In contrast, through true love our purpose in loving is the other person's spiritual and personal growth, and satisfying our own sexual desires has little to do with the other's spiritual growth. People do not fall in love or become infatuated with their children, parents, brothers and sisters, although we can love them very deeply.

Second, the feelings associated with falling in love are usually temporary. The ecstatic feeling of being in love eventually passes. True love is permanent and should last a lifetime.

Third, the experience of falling in love is in reality a collapse of a portion of what psychiatrists call our ego boundaries. Ego boundaries normally protect us from getting too emotionally close to too many people. When our ego boundaries collapse and we fall in love with someone, we feel very close and intimate with that person. We feel positive and happy all the time. We feel like anything is possible, that there are no limits to what we can do together. We feel we can overcome all obstacles and we will live in a state of bliss forever.

But this is not reality! Eventually, when lovers begin to have minor disagreements, or when the attractiveness that brought them together looses its appeal, they begin to realize that they will not live in bliss forever, and they begin to fall out of love. When they find themselves no longer in love, they can either end the relationship, or begin the work of building real, true love. True and lasting love sometimes can have its beginnings in an experience of falling in love.

Since falling in love involves a collapse of your ego boundaries and limits, you are not making effort to extend them. Real loving requires you to extend your limitations, expand your ego boundaries, and grow spiritually, all of which take effort and may be difficult and a challenge to accomplish...

Will the other party share the same thought as you... i felt uncertain... perhaps i shall wait for the day to come...

突然想起你
才发现你还在我脑海中
想想过去
想想你的样子
想想大家嘻嘻哈哈的情景
遗忘似乎比想象中的难
但愿彼此每天都能幸福快乐
直到永远…

 

 

 

偶尔把房里的窗口打开,

去感受那凉丝丝的风~
虽然我无法时常联络你,

但我会将我的祝福通过风~传送给你
如果有风围绕着你,

那就是我给你的祝福了…