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6/6/2007 逃避与选择当人们面对抉择，对与错往往只是一线只差。好与坏只是一个抉择,只要转个念头，所有的事情都会不一样了。
小时候有个小女孩认识了邻家小男孩名叫《阿日》，他的好友《阿棠》管他叫《Bear Bear》因为他很纯真，单纯得可爱。发现他的好-- 简单，健谈，不做作，为人诚恳，脚踏实地。 小女孩喜欢称他为《Baby》，跟他在一起，没有压力，谈笑风生，总是让小女孩放开胸怀，心情开郎，向往所有的聚会，仿佛心扉为他而开。小女孩的心思细腻，事事都为他着想，也希望化友情提升为爱情，但始终不敢表露出来，唯有把这份感情深藏在心里。其怕小男孩不为所动，也不想失去这份友谊。
不是孤单的时候才想起你，只是孤单的时候想起的只有你 。。。You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
人必竟随着时间，渐渐成长，接触的人多了，那份友谊会因此而疏远变质吗？必竟小男孩可能只是她生命中的过客，虽然希望渺茫，能认识他也是缘份，如果他心有所属，让他去吧！小女孩你可不要太执著咯！美好的人生开始总是在失去后，失落中而变得更美好！
Always treat it as a blessing in disguise...
5/19/2007 今夜心情写照一整个晚上都在打雷闪电，却不下雨，空气潮湿，感觉闷闷的！夜深人静，呆在家里，感觉有点郁闷，是什么又扰乱我的思绪哪？不想去想，因为不敢有任何期待了。虽说得容易，但做起来真的有点难， 总得常常提醒，不断地告诉自己把不愉快的心情抛到脑后，要让自己活的单生生活过得简简单单,不要太多的纷乱，不要太多的牵绊。 可能吗？有时这种想法却换成了个问号！哈，可笑吧！ 前天回到新加坡，就收到一个小学同学的简讯，非常意外，相隔了23年，如今搞了个聚会，我是第21个被找到的。起初看到email真有点向往，看着大伙的email来来去去，感觉他们都好兴奋，童年的校园情景不禁历历在目。我抱着希望，愿大家以最童真的心情笑言往事。 夜了。。。入梦吧！ 5/1/2007 Que Sera SeraWhen I was just a little girl
I asked my mother what will I be Will I be pretty, will I be rich Here's what she said to me Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be The future's not ours to see Que sera, sera What will be, will be When I grew up and fell in love
I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead Will we have rainbows day after day Here's what my sweetheart said Que sera, sera
Whatever will be, will be The future's not ours to see Que sera, sera What will be, will be Now I have children of my own
They asked their mother what will I be Will I be handsome, will I be rich I tell them terly Que sera, sera Whatever will be, will be The future's not ours to see Que sera, sera What will be, will be Que sera, sera 4/22/2007 爱如何去判断什么叫做「爱」？
「爱」是一个会意字，一个「心」加上一个「受」。
什么叫心受？
就是用心去感受对方的需要、
别人的需要，
才叫「爱」。
所以当有一个人处处都替你着想，
处处要成就你，
你的感受是什么？
非常欢喜，非常温暖。
所以，爱的感觉是什么？
是温暖的，「爱的感觉是温暖的」。
朋友，您现在感觉得到温暖吗？
假如你跟朋友、你的亲人，
在相交往过程觉得很温暖，
那一定是对方很懂得替你处处着想。 4/21/2007 放下今日女孩封闭以久的心竟被一个不相识的女人看透。女人说：“女孩呀，你个性独立强，工作努力有干劲，不屈不挠的精神，尽心尽力帮助朋友，虽时常得不偿失，但也永远带的笑容回应，从不为此而退缩，但空虚心灵却无人知！去宠宠自己吧!”
言语虽刺心，但意识到人往往把利字当头，有困难，有需要，需要倾诉就到来，女孩永远把门儿打开。在被人眼里，女孩总是让人看到自信坚强的一面，大家都认为女孩即使有烦恼也可以自行解决，但女孩希望有人能与她分享悲与乐，却不好意思打扰别人，又好像觉得无人有闲情聆听，有谁来借一个肩膀，靠一靠，只想静静地靠一下而已。因为好累！
人是情感的动物，心情自有起伏，有开心快乐事，也有难过时，因此难免有低落、消沉、沮丧的时候。每个人一生中或多或少都会碰到挫折与压力，诸多压力事件，情绪无法获得有效的纾解，周而复始一再累积，就会产生忧郁情绪。
古人说，‘当忧则忧，遇喜则喜’，就是说，遇事要拿得起放得下，敢作敢为。不论什么事，优柔寡断，‘当断不断，必受其乱’，所以要当机立断，该放下的也要坚决放下。当然，放下并不是要你身如枯树、心如古井、万念俱灰、百事莫为、一穷二白。而是要你睁开心灵的眼睛，珍惜心里最美好的东西，舍弃一切偏执的心外之物。因为‘人生如舟’，负载过多过重，不沉船也难免要搁浅。放得下，是为了能拿得起。当为生活的种种烦恼感到困惑、受到压力时，请深深吸一口清新的空气，放下你心中的所思所想，没有负担，海阔天空，你将会变得轻松愉快、活得旷达洒脱。正如古诗所云：‘春有百花秋有月，夏有凉风冬有雪；若无镕事在心头，便是人间好时节。’
念，扰乱了我的思绪，
想，多了一呈的忧郁,
放下。。。不念也不想了，要开心，活得快乐哦！ 4/17/2007 快乐前几天与好友聊心，今天看了她的部落格，感触良多。
与我相识二十年的知心好友，经历了人生的起落，
远在它乡，步入人生的另一阶段，开始一段美好的人生。
可是她并不快乐，因为被爱所以被困！
试问被爱幸福吗？还是爱人较幸福哪？
快乐与否，往往需要两人的心灵沟通，
人都有梦想，如果被阻拦了，人就郁郁不欢！
人只能活一次，虽不能像小鸟般自由的飞翔，
但有理想就有希望，人生有了目标，人也会快乐！
坦言她要得不多，只要给于一点点发展的空间。
知道你能保护与呵护她，但爱一个人，就得去了解什么才会让她快乐！
若要活得幸福些，只能活得平凡些。
若要活得辉煌些，只能活得痛苦些。
若要活得长久些，只能活得简单些。
若要活得幸福些，只能活得糊涂些。
这经典语言充满哲理，世上许多有其必然因果，没有付出代价，必难获所得？ 4/14/2007 思念思念是一种很玄的东西。。。
闭上眼睛你离我很近
睁开眼睛你离我很远 如果是空间的距离，
那思念便是甜蜜的，
甜蜜的笑着流泪。
如果是心灵的距离，
那思念便是苦涩的，
苦涩的笑着流泪。
如果是彼此的思念，
那思念便是一种幸福。
如果是单向的相思，
那思念便是一种哀愁。
如果只被别人思念，
那思念则是一种负担。
思念是有距离的，没有距离，便没有思念。。。思念是一种很玄的东西。。。 4/10/2007 单恋的心在我心里
有一本隐藏的日记 记录你的情绪 他的神情我的心 得不到肯定 都刻骨铭心 每次电话想起
都希望是你 在我心里
有一个隐藏的秘密 关于恋上一个被人疼爱的梦境 我不敢看你 我怜惜自己 守着你的心 却无能为力 望着你美丽身影
偷偷看你 虽然接近却遥不可及 为你付出了真心我不确定 坠入单恋深渊的结局 我用对你的关心 你的回应 去衡量你我之间的距离 我该如何退出着单恋的心 4/1/2007 感觉人该随着感觉走吗？
当人走到了尽头，该往下跳还是走回头哪？
人怕往下跳会越陷越深，无法自拔！
人又不想走回头路，为何那么无奈！
人想要跳出这个框框，
尽量与别人接触，希望能把自己的视野扩大。
可是却不经易的把感情也放下去，
明明不该如此轻易，但又难按心理的压抑。
怕失败，怕失去，怕接受，
往往不敢坦然地表明心意，
唯有把这份情感放在心上，
希望心痛的感觉也会随时间慢慢地慢慢遗忘吧！ 茫然感觉到自己象个德士司机在路上驾驶，茫茫人海，人来人往，有缘上车，彼此问声好，嘻嘻哈哈，谈笑风声，下车之后，个走个的。即使有缘见面，可能无人有闲情问声好。
是茫、是忙、还是盲！
3/28/2007 SheShe may be the face I can't forget The trace of pleasure or regret May be my treasure or the price I have to pay She may be the song the summer sings May be the chill the autumn brings May be a hundred different things Within the measure of a day She may be the beauty or the beast May be the famine or the feast May turn each day into a heaven or a hell She may be the mirror of my dreams The smile reflected in a stream She may not be what she may seem inside her shell She who always seems so happy in a crowd Whose eyes can be so crowded and so proud No one's allowed to see them when they cry She may be the love that cannot hope to last May come to me from shadows of the past But I'll remember till the day I die She may be the reason I survive The why and wherefore I'm alive The one I'll care for through the rough in many years Me, I'll take her laughter and her tears And make them all my souvenirs For where she goes I've got to be The meaning of my life is she She She 3/25/2007 执著听了你献给野老鼠的这首歌。。。丝路。。。让野老鼠感动也很感激你的祝福！野老鼠很想跨出这个圈圈，担又怕被区域千里之外。。。是隔层纱，隔层山，还是隔层会让野老鼠溺毙的海哪？
对感情执著到底好还是不好呢？我不知道，真的。没有一份感情让自己执著的话，就会觉得遗憾，而对感情太过执著，就会受伤，人啊，这么奇怪的动物，怎样都把握不好这个尺度哪？
那丝振动，总是在清晨
弹破空气，带来你的气息 那缕想念，总是在午夜
涌上心尖，捎去我的牵挂
那片真情，总是在指间
萦绕缠绵，洋溢彼此的爱恋
那些话语，总是在嘴角 低声呢喃，倾诉你我的心意 心，刻上了你的名字 话，只对你一个人说 你，我生命中的精灵 我，你心深处的影子 就这样，两个人一份情 一个梦, 牵了两颗心。。。 3/22/2007 生日快乐
谢谢你的祝福及附上了这首《生日快乐》。 这首歌 MV 让女孩不禁流泪了。。。突然间一阵阵的刺痛涌上心头，此刻的心情往下陷！正此时，生日祝福的简讯也传来。。。女孩哭了，是悲是喜，盲然间女孩也分不出了！ 四年前的那一天，正逢女孩生日，女孩放开了一段十四年的感情与男孩分开了，周围的人都替女孩开心，因为男孩深深的伤了女孩。可是女孩不怪男孩，因为彼此曾经快乐相爱过，经历了无数的低潮，让女孩变得更坚强更勇于面对现实，此时的女孩是个快乐的小天使! 庆幸女孩有家人及好友的疼爱及支持，让黑暗的日子充满了希望的阳光！女孩由衷地感激家人，好友的关心与扶持。。。没有再好的言语来表达。。。好想说：“谢谢你们，女孩爱你们”。
3/20/2007 TrustTRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the someone else's character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?" Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone else. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Instruction for Life 生活方針Instruction for Life / 生活方針 1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson. 3. Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, Respect for other’s and Responsibility for all your actions. 要考慮到，濃情烈愛與豐功偉業都蘊含著極大的風險。 即便失敗了，也別錯過其中的教訓。 遵守三個原則：尊重自己；尊重他人；為個人一切行為負責。 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly. 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship. 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 別忘了，塞翁失馬，焉知非福。 先弄懂規則，才會知道該如何適切地打破成規。 別讓小小的爭執傷害到深厚的關係。 發現自己犯了錯的時候，立即採取補救措施。 8. Spend some time alone every day. 9. Open arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. 11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. 每天花點時間獨處。 擁抱變革，但也要堅守個人價值觀。 請牢記在心，保持緘默有時候是最好的答覆。 生活誠實正直．那麼，老來回首前塵時，就可以重溫生之喜悅。 家中氣氛和諧安樂，即是您這一生的基石。 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. 15. Be gentle with the earth. 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. 和親人意見相左時，請就事論事，別翻舊帳。 和他人分享知識。這是永垂不朽的途徑之一。 善待地球。 每年拜訪一個您從未履足過的地方。 17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. 19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon. 請記住，所謂的最佳關係是指，雙方對彼此的愛凌駕在雙方對彼此的需索之上。 看看您在成功之前必須放棄多少，就足可衡量成功的程度。 愛和烹飪之道即在恣情任性而為。 3/8/2007 My Memorymy memory
抱住你我找回我自己 爱没有痕迹 却是一种重量压痛胸膛 you're far away 抱歉没能保护你 那些无助的孤单几乎放弃的绝望 不在你身旁 恨不得时间能真的倒转 不曾让你悲伤不曾彷徨没有遗憾 给你温柔的手 世界尽头也陪你一起走 i wanna love you forever
希望还来得及 我要用全部生命爱着你 my destiny
我要好好珍惜你 那些漫长的黑夜几乎幻灭的希望 不在你身旁 恨不得时间能真的倒转 不曾让你悲伤不曾彷徨没有遗憾 给你温柔的手 世界尽头也陪你一起走 i wanna love you forever 希望还来得及 我要用全部生命爱着你 3/7/2007 The BrickA young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, "What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?" The young boy was apologetic. "Please, mister...please, I'm sorry but I didn't know what else to do," He pleaded. "I threw the brick because no one else would stop..." With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car. "It's my brother, "he said "He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him up." Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, "Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me." Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. "Thank you and may God bless you," the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy! push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home. It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: "Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!" God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don't have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us. It's our choice to listen or not. 3/3/2007 知足常乐一生中要信的兩种教；證嚴法師说，每个人一生中都要信兩种教，《不计较》 与《不比较》。
人活着都会有许多的欲望，欲望多了，渐渐会欲求不滿，到最后就演便成为了滿足自己的欲望而去伤害別人。
如果我們凡事不与人计较，便不会有口角， 也不会勾心斗角，如果我们凡事不与人比较，便不会有欲望，也不会欲求不滿，因此我们做人要谦虚，要知足，更要惜福。
我們要把自己縮小，不断的缩小自己，小到能將自己放入別人眼中，因为眼裡是容不下一颗沙子的， 倘若能將自己缩小到放入別人眼中，让別人都能接纳你， 这样才是真的会做人，世界这么大，每个人都有他的过人之处， 如果我们不懂得缩小自己，只是一味的觉得自己比別人厉害， 这样永远都不会成功，永远都不会满足，也永远都不快乐。
因为一山比一山高，所以不要去和人家比较，这不是要你因此不求上进哦，是要你懂得谦虚。是要你將心放大，去包容每一個人，从家人、朋友、甚至陌生人。
如果每个人都能有所领悟，都能放宽心，相信都会过得很快乐，因为《知足常乐》。
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